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Friday, October 29, 2010

Separating the REAL from the FAKE

FIRST OFF! thank you for those who choose to keep up with whats going on in my life these days. For those who like: KNOW ME, know me, you are aware that I keep my friends and associates to a minimum. Less friends, Less drama. I have enough of that in my life these days. Before I was diagnosed with cancer, I guess you can say I did my share of partying. I mean, my work load was extremely crazy. So I got out when ever I could. At this time in my life, I met a lot of cool people. I'm a random type of person, ready to go anywhere at anytime. So many of my  "friends" would call me to hang out on spare of the moment events. I mean it could be 2a.m. and if they needed me to be there, I was there. SOOOOOOOOO ANYWAYS: After discovering my having cancer, My cousin Lisa called me and had a convo with me. Pointing out that in this moment of time, i would see who is really there for me and who isn't. HELLOOOOO!!!!! was she ever so correct. I'm talking, people who I NEVER would have expected to NOT be there, had my back more than the people i just KNEW would be there. I felt in a way that now because I'm not an asset to them any longer, that I was just so easy to dispose of. "Oh, Eboney cant party with us anymore, no need in calling her." "Oh, Eboney cant get drunk with us anymore, Leave her be" BLAHzayBLAH-Till this day, there are certain people that have not picked up the phone to give a simple courtesy call. But yet I have females who couldn't STAND MY ASS back in the day, hitting me up on FB praying for me. Even strangers who don't know me from a whole in the wall hit me up. I just find it crazy. But I'm grateful for it. Because now I know who is truly there for me and who just looked at me as "Fun party girl Eboney who was down for the ride". I hopped off that party bus a LOOOONG time ago. THANK YOU to those who generally care.

2 comments:

  1. @ Ebony I was only 23 when my kidneys failed and i had to go on dialysis and I had to take medicine and do treatments and that is not something that most people can understand and because "friends" still go out and you may not have the energy any longer you have to still realize until someone walks in your shoes they cant feel your struggles and all it takes is a HEEELO and that means a lot :) HEEELO :) I love you and I have your dried cranberries! It was nothing!

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  2. (= @lisa i know, and i understand that people dont get it. but you know how it is. i have a friend (wont say names) who only wanted to call me when she needed something. the day i got out of surgery she called to "check on me" then asked me for a ride somewhere. like huh? and didnt get a call from her untill like a month later. im talking about people like that. And ill be over later for the cranberries (= THANK YOUUUUU

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